How to overcome fear?
Fear is an integral part of our lives,This protective mechanism has been worked out by nature since ancient times. However, it is known that fear can have disastrous consequences for a person and even degenerate into phobias that simply will not allow a person to live a normal life. In this article we will give a few tips that psychologists recommend, on overcoming fears and phobias. So, let's look at how to defeat fear.
Recognize your fear
First of all, you must understand what exactly you areafraid and admit to yourself in this, only so you can begin to get rid of your fear. Do not try to veil your fear, referring to some problems and trivialities that are indirectly related to fear or not at all. For example, you are afraid to fly on an airplane and you can not admit it, justifying your fear by feeling bad due to changes in the pressure in the flight. You need to drop all excuses, admit your fear and try to overcome it.
Afraid - do
The first step is the most difficult, but the most important. Do not tell yourself that you will not succeed, that you will not have enough time or money.
It is clear that overcoming fear in one day is unlikelyit will turn out. It takes time. But this does not mean that you need to constantly postpone the first step in overcoming fear for later. If your fear prevents you from living, start fighting it today.
A good example here is the story of oneBritish psychologist named Carlos Brown. This person every day left the house to work and every day he met his neighbor, with whom he was afraid to speak. This lasted for two years, until at last he decided to say hello to her. It turned out that all this time the girl was also afraid to speak to him. But as a result, they got married.
Appreciate your fear
To understand how serious your fears are,you need to present and evaluate the worst case scenario if you act in spite of your own fear. Then you will understand whether it is worth trying to overcome fear if the consequences turn out to be too bad. An adequate assessment of the worst option will help you: the specific situation is not so terrible as the unknown. And, perhaps, the outcome of the events will not be terrible at all.
A vivid example of the correct assessment of their fearsis the story of Carol Shelby. This famous racer since childhood suffered from heart disease. The doctors said that he would always be confined to bed. He suffered for a long time because of his illness and was afraid of peace, because any stress could kill him. However, at 14 the boy's health improved, he was able to get out of bed and even began to engage in physical education. Doctors and parents worried for him, since the threat of an attack was still very high. What was their surprise when Carol not only went to school after school and became a pilot, but also as a result became the most famous racer of the 20th century! Moreover, this person lived up to 89 years!
Carol Shelby dedicated his life to racing and becamea real idol of all the riders. Later, he said that it was the assessment of his fear that helped him live on: "I realized that if I remain afraid to die for the rest of my life, I do not recognize life at all." Let me rather die today or tomorrow from a heart attack-it does not scare me But I'll die happy. "
Obviously, the worst option for this personthere was a death that literally lay in wait for him from the first years of his life. But in the end it was the fear of death that spurred Carol to a vibrant life and made him a legend.
Analysis of fear
We have analyzed what is primarily worth appraisingthe worst option. Next, we give a general scheme for assessing fear. It is she who helps most people who have different fears to overcome them.
- Analyze your fear. You can write down what exactly you are afraid of. You can also imagine your fear in the form of a picture.
- Answer yourself to the question, why are you afraid and should you be afraid at all? What are the reasons for your fear?
- Ask yourself, are you afraid to start fighting fear or are you afraid of not achieving your goal?
The last question is usually the most difficult. If you can not answer it unambiguously, it is recommended to delete it and write just a few words: "Just start acting." Fear may not disappear, but it is the ability to act despite fear in the end that leads the person to the desired results.
Other methods of combating fear
It is recommended to use different methods and combinations to combat your fears.
- For example, you can exercise regularly. It is proved that during physical exertion the adrenal glands stop developing the hormone of fear.
- Observe the sleep mode. It is known that sleep is the best medicine. It can quite help you in overcoming your fears.
- Also do not forget about communication, you can tell someone about your fears. Who knows, it is quite possible that you are not at all alone. And it's much easier to overcome fear with other people.
If you understand that your fear is somethingmore than just speculation, it is possible that you are faced with a serious form of paranoia or phobia. In this case, it is recommended to contact a psychologist or a psychotherapist. You may also need a medication.